Love
Sunday, October 03, 2004
This is nice ... to those who wondered what love is, read this! =)
It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mysteryhow it happens. It is a mystery why love sometimes grows and why it sometimes falls. You can analyze and look for some reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take life out of the experience.
Love is more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalties that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comesand goes in its time, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its way.
Too often, when love comes to people, they try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift freely given, that freely moves away.When they fall out of love or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather that acceptingthe gift for what it was.They want answers --- there are no answers.
They want to know what is wrong with them or they try toget their love to change, thinking that if some small thing were different love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances. They blame eachother. They try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.You need to treat what love brings you with kindness.
If you find yourself in love with someonewho does not love you in return, be gentle withyourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didnt choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find someone else in love with you toward whom you feel no love, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the giftyou cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how lovedeals with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are very different.If you fall in love with another who falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know it in time, but time itself will chooses the moment. Remember this. Keep it in your heart YOU DONT CHOOSE LOVE, LOVE CHOOSES YOU.All you can do really, is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you with overflowing then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought itto you, give it to others who seem poor in spirit.Give it to the world around you in any ways you can.Love has its own time, its own season, and its reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it, coerce it, or reason it into staying. If it chooses to leave your heart or from the heart of your lover,there is nothing you can do and nothing you should do, be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open, it will surely come again
10/03/2004 07:00:00 PM
